Friday, March 13, 2015


I'm happy to report, dear reader, that the main reason for my absence of late has been work work work! My practice, a year and a week old, is getting busy and consequently, the wheels have come off in a lot of ways. The house is a wreck (by my OCD standards, anyway), the refrigerator is usually bare of anything useful, my workout regimen has consisted of maybe three runs per week and no strength or stretching, laundry feels unconquerable, the dog is neglected. You know the scene.

Last week was my birthday and I took off Thursday afternoon through Sunday--the most time I've truly taken away from work (no responding to emails or answering phone calls for an entire day and a half!) since August.

And it gave me time to think. And to realize that I have to stop the madness, and scale up in the smartest, leanest ways I can think of. My goal remains to stay a true solo attorney for as long as possible. I really don't want a paralegal or an assistant or even someone answering my phone. I want 100% control over the work and the image that I put out on that side of things.

So, my conclusion was that the help needs to come on the home front--which will also be much cheaper than hiring support staff at the office. My decision was reinforced by the events of the next few days. When we got home Sunday afternoon, we unpacked the car and D took off for the office. I unpacked, laundered, washed the dog, vacuumed, did the bare minimum to get the house in order, and then it was 7 pm and I was exhausted (thanks DST). We went out for a quick dinner, I folded some more laundry, and then it was bedtime. And I hadn't done a single task related to my practice.

I also hadn't hit the grocery. And being forced by meetings and hearings to hit the ground running Monday morning led to no grocery run until Wednesday after work (730 pm). So, we ate out Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday and had a crazy dinner Wednesday that I was able to round up in my delirious and hungry state at Whole Foods at 730 pm.

So, feeling like an utter failure (as well as bloated and toxic) Wednesday night I used a discount link from Amalah for Blue Apron and put out feelers for house cleaners. Our first Blue Apron delivery is arriving Thursday and I'm meeting with a highly-recommended house cleaner today and probably scheduling a one-time Merry Maids deep clean in the meantime (she can't start until the 25th). I'm going to start taking the towels and sheets out for fluff and fold service (I'm keeping control over clothing and delicates for obvious reasons).

And, you guys, I feel such a profound feeling of both relief and excitement. I can hardly wait to be able to focus most of my time on work, exercise, and fun.

The final reinforcement came this morning, from my Danielle Laporte daily truthbomb:

Monday, February 9, 2015


I figured it would happen this way. After three months of throwing everything at my injury with zero effect, all of a sudden it's hugely improved. Who knows how, or what helped, or why?

I can't really care too much about the whys. After all of those weeks of maxing out at 1.5 or 2 miles (with VERY few exceptions), I've run 5 miles, 3 miles, 4.47 miles, and 4 miles in the last week. I still have some pain at the end, but when the end is 50 minutes, an hour, 40 minutes rather than 7 minutes, 10 minutes, 12 minutes? I'm not complaining.

It's both wonderful and horrible how much of an effect these four runs have had on me. Wonderful, because it's happening. Horrible, because I feel dependent on a form of exercise that has been taken away from me so many times due to injury.

For now, I'm holding on to the wonderful. Having just finished that 4-miler a few hours ago, I can't really be pessimistic.

During our run on Saturday, we came to my favorite neighborhood downhill after about 20 minutes, so I was really warmed up. I had the most perfect moment of runner's high, flying down that hill at top speed. I hadn't felt like that since early November.

And for that, I am grateful.

Saturday, January 17, 2015

this too BETTER pass

Those New Year's resolutions? Um.

I did great the first week, but last week was a bit shaky. My excuse for this week is that my favorite race, the Charleston half, is happening right now and I spent too much time mourning my continuing injury and yet another race I'm longing to run in, but am not. Not helping=the number of people I know who are running, including one I helped convince to run. I probably should have stayed off social media this morning, but what can I say? I'm a glutton for punishment.

My resolutions are really all about getting balance, both physically and mentally, in hopes of getting back to that 2.5-year equilibrium that allowed me to run healthy and finish all my races.

I so want to run my fifth half this year. I veer wildly between "I can do it" and "duh, obviously I have no control over this." I've done foam rolling, chiro, massage, Rolfing, acupuncture, the chinese herbs the acupuncturist gave me, switching to flat shoes, yoga (ended up blowing up my old hip injury--the one with the torn cartilage--so yay, now I have 2 issues), strength training, Pose method exercises and drills, Ready to Run mobilizations, increased hydration, and of course greatly reduced mileage. And next Friday I'm going to do a private Pilates reformer session. So, I mean, what else could I possibly do? No stone unturned, yo.

So, I just power on, doing all my drills and exercises and being smart and determined and hoping for the best. My dream goal=a half the weekend of my birthday (March 6). My slightly more realistic goal=the Palmetto Half on April 7. Hear that, universe?? Make it so!

Friday, January 2, 2015

resolution one:

blog weekly.

This morning I woke up full of motivation and focus. It's D's birthday, and he had stayed up late watching the Sugar Bowl, so I didn't want to wake him. I inched over, grabbed my phone, and quietly devised a plan to rule the world (my world!) in 2015. On Wunderlist (my new favorite to-do app).

My 2015 Intentions list

  • Cook dinner 3 times per week
  • Do yoga twice per week
  • Bill 21 hours per week
  • Limit social media (measurable goals TBD, I think there's an app for that?)
  • Do Ready to Run mobilizations daily (10 minutes)
  • Read one book per month, starting with some of the dozens I have on my Kindle and haven't read
  • Drink 70 ounces of water per day
  • Get 7 hours of sleep per night
  • Have no more than 8 drinks per week
  • Eat vegan 15/21 meals per week
  • Do circuit training 4 times a week
  • Meditate 4 times a week
  • Figure out how to run again (thanks, 7-week IT band injury, you asshole) and run at least one race of each distance: 5k, 10k, 12k, half marathon
  • And, yes, blog weekly.
I know we're supposed to get away from these kinds of resolutions nowadays, right? But, I run my entire world right now, and I need some structure. I also respond to this kind of thing. I'm hoping to update these after January after I've become so amazing that these are too easily attained.

Happy New Year, y'all!

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

equinoxing it

It's a slower week with work, and the weather just turned cool as though someone flipped a switch, and I have a short week (going to Charleston tomorrow!), so naturally I've been pondering the nature of existence.

Or at least how to improve my productivity, my health, my mindset--otherwise known as my constant obsession. I should write a self-help book just to occupy the obsession.

It's been 6 1/2 months since I launched my practice, and I've learned an amazing amount and come a long way. But I have the overwhelming urge now to reassess my philosophy, improve my processes, streamline my workflow. Yeah. I've been reading a few business books, websites, blogs..just a few. I'm hoping this weekend will give me the chance to step back, ponder, and then put some improvements in place.

Some of my ideas:

  • setting office hours, rather than deciding ad hoc when I will or won't be in
  • moving my home office into the home office and off the dining room table
  • getting up earlier and running or working out first thing everyday
  • meditating everyday, I mean, I have the subscription
  • networking lunch or happy hour once a week minimum
  • creating written policies and sharing them with clients (i.e., I will not answer your call at 9 pm)
  • blogging more often
  • updating professional facebook and twitter at least once a week
  • reducing time spent on personal facebook and twitter
  • going to bed before midnight most nights
  • convincing D to take more 3-day weekends and leave town
  • drinking more water
  • and OF COURSE, lose 5 pounds.
You get the idea. Happy Fall! 

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

back to school

Nothing like taking the ENTIRE summer off from blogging, eh? From Memorial Day weekend until the day after Labor Day. Awfully impressive for an unplanned hiatus, if I do say so myself.

The practice is still cruising along. I still can't believe how much LESS stress I have, despite the fact that I don't usually know from week to week what my income will be. It's truly amazing. I have control over my schedule, the work I do, the way I spend my days. Complete control. The liberation is almost too much. My primary goal is no longer to make tons of money, but rather to reduce my expenses so that this freedom expands.

In other news, I am back to training for a race for the first time since January, and only 2 weeks in, I'm remembering how much I love having a plan on paper and checking off miles and workouts. LOVE. I'm running my favorite 12k in about 6 weeks and debating a local half marathon. And of course I'm doing my absolute favorite race, the Charleston Half, in January.

The summer was low-key and uneventful, though I procured my dream car (Fiat 500c, and Gucci trim to boot) and got my porch redone, finally. Of course it's too hot to put the top down on the car or sit on the porch, but soon. Soon.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

i'm the boss

Yes, I've been a horrible, horrible blogger. But I've been a good lawyer, business owner, doggie mama, wife, housewife, and champagne drinker.

Y'all. This whole self-directed life thing is AH-MA-ZING. I make my own schedule, 100%. I mean, of course when a client requests a certain time, I give it to them if at all possible (see: 6 pm appointment this evening for a client who gets off work at 530). But for the most part, I am running my world and it is a beautiful thing. After 5 1/2 years in state government jail--in a position in which I was expected to be in one building 99.9999% of the time--this is pure heaven. It's going to be a damn long time before I take for granted things like going running this morning with D from 830-915, having a 3 pm chiro appointment today and an 11 am Rolfing appointment Tuesday, and still sitting here in yoga pants and a tee drafting pleadings for clients. The other day I was sitting here in a similar outfit when a client wanted to stop by to notarize some documents. Since my office share is half a mile away, I told him I'd see him in 10 minutes. I threw on a dress and was there in 8.

I love helping people again, I love going to court weekly (or more), I love getting to know the staff in the clerk's office. Learning a new area of law has been scary/exhilarating, and very good for my aging lawyer brain. Networking lunches and getting involved in "civilization" (what I call downtown, because the state job was also in the suburbs of the suburbs) again with professional organizations and just being in town during the day? Icing on the cake.

That said, it's been a long 12 weeks of being in Columbia in an uninterrupted rut of the aforementioned lawyering, business owning, doggie mama-ing, wifeing, housewifeing, and champagne drinking. I'm a little burned out on being so available, emotionally and otherwise, to my divorcing clients. I'm more than a little burned out on Columbia. Luckily, tomorrow midday we head out (with Ruthie!) to Charleston for Spoleto opening weekend. We have an amazing itinerary of theater, dance, and live jazz, and meals at 2 new restaurants, and hope to pack as much sublime enjoyment into 2 days as possible.

Because we return Sunday and I have a client coming in Monday, so she doesn't have to take leave from her state job.

Isn't that just totally appropriate?